It happens to the best of us, we wake up in the morning and without no reason what so ever we feel as if the whole world is ONE BIG negative place.
We feel depressed, helpless and alone. “No one understands…the happy ones are the lucky few who simply have great lives… I am a victim…” Some of us might even be so pessimistic to think that those who are happy live in an illusion and cannot see the real world.
Who is blind? The one who can spot the colours even in the dark or the one who remains in darkness with open eyes?
But are these feelings really without reasons, or have we simply not taken the time to understand why we sometimes feel this way? Could it be that we actually suffer from a depression or is it simply because we choose to be negative as it is easier?
Depression could of course be the cause and the necessary steps must be taken in order to deal with depression. But is feeling down the same as being depressed? If that is the case, then we must all suffer from some kind of depression. In some ways it is always easier to blame the world rather than taking responsibility for our own happiness. But is this approach really better? And is this ‘easy solution’ really easy to live with?
One thing is for sure and that is the fact that happiness comes from within. Nothing externally is able to buy us happiness if we are unable to appreciate what we have already. You might be poor and unhappy and think that
winning the lottery would solve all your problems, but if you are financially successful and yet miserable, you remember the times when you had nothing and yet so happy because you had no responsibility and could enjoy real happiness with the most simple things in life.
Or, you might consider yourself overweight and envy every slim person and believe that a thin body would create all happiness you lack in your life, but if you have a perfect body shape but are suffering from a disease, you would happily be ‘less perfect’… only to be healthy again.
It is not life or our situation that makes us unhappy, it is simply us who find excuses to stay unhappy. If you are single and miserable and thinking that a relationship would be the solution to all your life desires and future dreams, you might want to know that couples with family responsibilities would give anything to just have ONE day for themselves…to feel free…The list can go on but the idea is the same.
We feel unhappy not because of the lack of things we have in our life, but because of the lack of appreciation to the things we do have.
Our mood is not an outcome of a situation but it is the result of our own perception. Our experiences and feelings depend on how we choose to see things.
Consequently, our life is moulded around our feelings and perceptions. There are many interesting studies related to this argument and a research undertaken at Yale University has even found that you can prolong your life by having a positive perception of yourself.
Is it your perception?
Is the issue that worries you really that big or does it just look that way because of your focus on the ‘issue’ and for failing to see the bigger picture in your life?
Simple tips to stay Positive and Happy
Don’t underestimate the joy of giving. You don’t need to give your fortune away. Sometimes a simple smile is enough!
“If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy wtihin your heart, then in living I have made my mark.” Thomas L. Odem Jr.
Believe in happiness!
“If you can imagine it you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.” William Arthur Ward
It is all about your perception!
Try and see things from a positive person’s perspective! How would a positive person see your situation? Is it really so hard to see it that way?
“When you realize how perfect everything is, you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky”. Buddha
“One should eat to live, not live to eat.” Moliere
Be kind to your self and love your body!
“He who loves the world as his body may be entrusted with the empire.” Lao Tzu